I have learned to have immense gratitude for a relationship that did not last. If it had, I wouldn’t have been so invested in learning how to love myself. God knows why we wait to learn how to love ourselves when it feels like our survival depends on it, when it feels like if we don’t choose radical self love, our world might just cave in. But I’ve noticed, in myself and in others, we often wait until we are so sick and tired of feeling incomplete before we finally fill our own damn cup.