Father Knows Best
In my family, we do not use the term “strategizing” when we refer to careful life-planning. The kind of methodical preparation and contemplation that precursors important decision-making is lovingly named “dad-egizing.” There’s no scientific research supporting this claim, but I am fairly certain that my dad is always right (as annoying as that can be). My attending college nearly 3000 miles away from him has changed the nature of our conferences, and while I miss our typical set-up of him in his black leather lazy-boy recliner and me stationed on the couch and/or oriental rug, I am beyond grateful to have him be one phone call away.
I Love Now.
you can’t learn from what you’re living through if you don’t give yourself the permission to be PRESENT. take the time to get to know yourself, to experience this moment fully. it’s human to be so caught up in worries about the possible scenarios of the future and the mind replay-loops of the past that we forget to take a deep, grateful breath and see the LOVE and BLESSINGS unique to RIGHT NOW.
This Is a Shoutout to My Ex
I have learned to have immense gratitude for a relationship that did not last. If it had, I wouldn’t have been so invested in learning how to love myself. God knows why we wait to learn how to love ourselves when it feels like our survival depends on it, when it feels like if we don’t choose radical self love, our world might just cave in. But I’ve noticed, in myself and in others, we often wait until we are so sick and tired of feeling incomplete before we finally fill our own damn cup.
For When You’re Feeling Anxious…
THE GOAL ISN’T TO NEVER FEEL STRESS, ANXIETY, OR DISCOMFORT. THE GOAL IS TO ADD NEW TOOLS TO OUR MENTAL TOOLBOX SO THAT WE CAN RIDE THE ROLLERCOASTER OF ALL EMOTIONS. THE GOAL IS NOT TO FEEL NUMB, BUT TO FEEL DEEPLY. THE GOAL ISN’T TO BE PERFECT; THE GOAL IS TO BE PRESENT.