You’re Doing Your F*cking Best.
sometimes your best looks “better” than others. it’s not better, it’s different. it’s the best you can in that moment, and that’s all that really matters. let you be the judge of you... not “those people” you’re so worried about—they’re not living this life for you.
The Time Jesus Was My Uber Driver
Today started off like the children’s book, Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day. BUT, as I was ready to ~officially lose my mind~ and the tears of frustration were beginning to fall, my Uber driver, Brian Starr, swooped in to save the day.
Let People Love You!
I’m going to say it again: let people love you. I don’t know if that sounds like a simple sentiment to all of you, but, for me, it was something that sounded simple but did NOT sound easy. I would get in my own way when it came to friendships, choosing to believe that I wasn’t worthy of being surrounded by amazing people. I’d try to only show the “good” parts of myself, so that people would like me better.
I Love Now.
you can’t learn from what you’re living through if you don’t give yourself the permission to be PRESENT. take the time to get to know yourself, to experience this moment fully. it’s human to be so caught up in worries about the possible scenarios of the future and the mind replay-loops of the past that we forget to take a deep, grateful breath and see the LOVE and BLESSINGS unique to RIGHT NOW.
I Am Standing Again
This post is a segment of Not My Love Stories that powerfully displays that the loves that don’t work out also do work out, because they prove to us that we will remember how to stand on our own two feet again. And, if we can’t remember, we will teach ourselves how to walk again. Because, that is just what we do.
Table For One, Please!
I realized that this summer will be the first in quite some time that I fully intend on being single. No boyfriend. No one I’m “talking” to. No interest in the whole Tinder/dating apps scene. Basically, my internet besties, we’ve got no prospects. And it’s (largely) by design.
We’re All Like Other Girls
My friend Miranda and I were talking about this a few weeks ago, when I was first toying with the idea of this post, and she so beautifully said, “I look at all of you [my girl friends] and I see pieces I want to take from each of you.” How brilliant is that? Here we are, afraid to be like other girls, when, instead, we can focus on cultivating meaningful friendships with women that we admire. Instead of looking to other women through a fearful comparison of who we don’t want to be, what if we, conversely, looked to other women for inspiration of who we do want to be?
Written in The Sand
I realized that there are kinds of love that have the capacity to move oceans, and there are others that can move sand. There are loves that build lives together; there are loves that build houses out of sand together.
“My mom always warned me about people in glass houses, but no one ever told me not to live in a castle made of sand.”
This Is Way Heavier Than the “Freshman Fifteen”
We all just really want to love and to be loved. Our world today can easily convince us that we’re lacking or that there’s not enough to go around, but, with love, there’s always more where that came from. No weight, GPA, dress size, or bank account balance guarantees happiness.
Dr. Ashley Uyeshiro Wants You to THRIVE, on Campus and in the Workplace
So often, we think that one choice–our major, our summer internship, you name it–will determine the whole trajectory of our lives. Dr. Uyeshiro is a living example of embracing the pivot’s that life throws our way and building a fulfilled, successful career through doing so.
Take Today Breath by Breath
We tend to think that there’s courses laid out for us in life, that there’s a path carved leading us to grace. I believe that we stumble into grace. It’s when we feel like there’s nothing left to lose that we discover what is worth living for. When we stop trying so hard to know what things will look like every step of the way, we can focus on how we want to take our next step.
This Is a Shoutout to My Ex
I have learned to have immense gratitude for a relationship that did not last. If it had, I wouldn’t have been so invested in learning how to love myself. God knows why we wait to learn how to love ourselves when it feels like our survival depends on it, when it feels like if we don’t choose radical self love, our world might just cave in. But I’ve noticed, in myself and in others, we often wait until we are so sick and tired of feeling incomplete before we finally fill our own damn cup.
18 Things I’ve Learned From the First 18 Years of My life
BROUGHT TO YOU BY ARCHIVED JOURNAL ENTRIES, THE PEOPLE AND PLACES WHO HAVE SHAPED ME, AND MY DETERMINATION TO LIVE OUT AND TELL MY OWN “COMING OF AGE” STORY.
Here’s How You’re Contributing to Misogyny (Without Even Knowing It…)
Learning how to embrace inclusive sex positivity as an act of feminism, on our college campuses especially, can be the butterfly effect for helping to mitigate misogyny. Recognizing when our own comments are rooted in internalized misogynistic social norms can prevent us from continuing to partake in that kind of culture, and help us shift towards a more equal, sex positive society.
You’re Your Own Damn Everything.
You are your own damn everything. No one is more you than you. No one can understand you the way you do. I guarantee that the love you are seeking to give or receive from other’s is precisely the love you wish you would give yourself. Forget who you will disappoint. Take the risk. Get your cute a$$ in the driver’s seat. Ask yourself what you’re afraid of. Discern for yourself what sets your soul on fire.
Morning Affirmations To Kickstart Your Day
THERE’S A CHOICE YOU MUST MAKE EACH MORNING: DO I WANT TODAY TO LOOK LIKE YESTERDAY OR DO I WANT TODAY TO BE THE START OF SOMETHING NEW?
For When You’re Feeling Anxious…
THE GOAL ISN’T TO NEVER FEEL STRESS, ANXIETY, OR DISCOMFORT. THE GOAL IS TO ADD NEW TOOLS TO OUR MENTAL TOOLBOX SO THAT WE CAN RIDE THE ROLLERCOASTER OF ALL EMOTIONS. THE GOAL IS NOT TO FEEL NUMB, BUT TO FEEL DEEPLY. THE GOAL ISN’T TO BE PERFECT; THE GOAL IS TO BE PRESENT.
Maybe She’s Born With It, Maybe It’s DISCIPLINE.
a healthy dose of discipline, routine, planning, and structure can all clear the way for spontaneity, liveliness, adventure, and dreams-come-true.
Read this before making your “New Year’s Resolutions”
“setting intentions” is quite the BUZZWORD these days. every month, moon cycle, new year, day, YOU NAME IT, people are setting and sharing new intentions. I think it’s wonderful. think about it, we are all waking up to the power of being picky about what we invest our energy into.
When Loving Someone Means Letting Them Go…
Love alone isn’t reason enough to withstand a million duller blows to the heart a day as you wait for the day that you will part with your SO, just to keep them in your life another day longer. Love alone isn’t reason enough to override your brain’s warnings of why it is time. Love alone isn’t reason enough to hold someone back from going off on their own, from being the main character of their lives. Love alone isn’t reason enough to avoid the growth that is in store for you, the calls you are hearing to come home to yourself.